Start Now

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“Start now,” that’s what I need to remind myself of today…

I’ve been going around and around about when and how to announce the re-branding Bitches Work, but nothing feels right.

I keep thinking…  How am I supposed to tell people?  Should I be doing more of a build up?  Has it been too long?  Will people still be following me…?  Around and around down that rabbit hole spiral we all know.

Too often we get stuck in a rut.  We procrastinate.  We doubt.

For me I’ve been looking for a right time.  A right way.

The longer I wait though, the more it has me thinking, is there a right way and a right time?  How do you even go about determining when something is right?

Too often it seems like we are waiting for “right,” but what we are really waiting for is a sign.

A sign that everything will be okay, that we are prepared, that we won’t fail, that people will still stand by us.

The thing is, this so called “sign” isn’t something I think we should stop our lives for, waiting anxiously as if it were like the mailman coming.

Sometimes we need to create our own sign.

We need to reassure ourselves that everything will be okay.

We need to reassure ourselves that we are prepared.

We need to reassure ourselves that we won’t fail, because the only failure is giving up.

We need to reassure ourselves that it’s okay to start.

And that’s what I’m doing today.  So with that, bah-dah-dah-dummmm, the new site is up and live!

Check it out at BitchesWork.com!

 

Why Keeping a Bucket List is a Must

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We all have our bucket list.  Maybe it’s on paper, maybe it’s in our mind – but we all have that list…

That list of our hopes and dreams, of things we wish to do, learn, see, accomplish.

I don’t know about you, but many times mine feels like a brutal reminder of what I haven’t done… that I haven’t found the time, even though I know it’s available… that I’m scared to try out of fear of failure… or worse that I’ve failed to keep persisting when I tried without success.

Sometimes it seems easier to just erase some of the goals I set for myself.  Pretend I’ve had a change of heart and that it’s no longer important for me. Maybe just give in, and say, “It is what it is,” and accept life as an unchangeable object.

Yet still, I keep my bucket list.

I keep my bucket list because I know, no matter how long it takes, or how scary it feels, these are deep dreams I have for myself.

Because I know that erasing this list is like giving up on myself.

Because I know that with a determined heart I can make anything happen.

And I know that this is the same for you.

I know that no matter how heavy it may weight on your mind, how much you’d like to just throw in the towel and just say, “It is what it is,” like I sometimes do, it is worth it to keep your bucket list.

We have to push through and keep our dreams alive. If we don’t who else will?

Pretty soon I’ll be checking off cross country trip from my bucket list. Follow along, I’ll be posting my adventures on Instagram @kathlynhart

Get Out of the Way of a Woman on a Mission

In honor of our #LikeABoss interview series, I wanted to write about this quote I heard in a documentary awhile that really stuck with me…  

The women in the documentary shared her thoughts that it will be the women of the future that will change this world.  

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In a nut shell she said, if you’ve ever seen a woman on a mission, you better join forces with her, or get out of her way.  A woman on a mission, is like a bulldozer that has no off switch.  Mess with her child, mess with her house, mess with her community of loved one – you will get understand fury, you will feel her wrath.  It is a woman on a mission who will change this world.”

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Pantene’s “Not Sorry” Video Stirring the Pot

Have you seen the new Pantene “Not Sorry” video for women for their #ShineStrong?

The commercial highlights how often women say sorry, and encourages them to be strong and stop apologizing.

Sounds good right?

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That’s what I though.  My initial reaction was “AMMMMEEENNN!”  I say sorry ALL the time, and I know it’s something I need to work on, so naturally I was happy to see Pantene encouraging women to do the same.

To show my support I went to go hit the “Like” button…  and that’s when it slapped me.

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Don’t Let Your Goals Define You

Finish what you start!

Winners never give up!

Do or die!

Go hard or go home!

Why?

We don’t want to be a failure.  We don’t want to seem like a floozy… So we keep going…

We stay on course, with our heads locked on the goal ahead, and plow like a maniac trying to hit deadlines and exceptions.

What happens though, when you find yourself heading towards your destination and then suddenly you begin wondering why you even began the journey?

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A few months ago I made a bold declaration.  I was going to interview 50 badass women in 50 days.

Why?  Well…

  1. I wanted to reach out to women that inspired me
  2. I wanted to push myself to talk about Bitches Work with strangers
  3. I wanted to become better at conducting interviews
  4. I wanted to learn to edit video

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BOOM.  50 interviews in 50 days seemed like a grand plan to push myself to make moves on my goals, right?

Right!  So with reasons fueling my fire I made that ballsy declaration, and started charging.

And charge ahead I did.

Within two weeks I had already interviewed 15 women.  15 amazing incredible women that I loved so much I was ecstatic to share them on this site.

But then something happened…

YES I was pushing myself to talk to strangers about Bitches Work, YES I was reaching out to women that inspired me, YES I was becoming better at conduct interviews, and YES I was learning how to edit videos… but something felt off.

With each new interview I posted on the YouTube channel followed by a Facebook update and e-mail blast, I began to feel a knot in my stomach beginning to form.

I began wondering, was I really giving each woman’s message proper time to be shared and listen too?  Was I posting too quickly and moving into “spam” territory?

I also began noticing how the intense schedule was affecting me physically and emotionally.  From rise and shine to beddy bye time I would spend every waking moment in front of my computer – reaching out to women, setting up interviews, interviewing, editing footage, posting the interview, and promoting.

Sure, I was making progress on my goals and heading towards my destination, but I couldn’t shake the thought, “did I really need to interview 50 women in 50 days?  

If I were to do 25 interviews in 50 days, would I still make progress on all my goals?  How about if I were to do 10 interviews in 50 days?  How about just 1 interview every week?    

Of course the answer was an overwhelming YES.

Even if I just did 1 interview every month I could still continue to make progress on my goals.

Yet, I couldn’t seem to shake a sort of guilt.  A guilt that seemed ludicrous yet binding.

I WANTED to stop my 50 in 50 goal.  I WANTED to space out each interview.  Why couldn’t bring myself to admit this to anyone other than myself…

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I hate to admit it, but when I began digging deeper and deeper into this binding sort of guilt I started to realize it wasn’t guilt that was tying me down.

What it really was, was my own fear.

In my head I had made this quote-on-quote HUGE declaration.  I had made a public goal.  ”What were people going to think of me,” I wondered?  ”What would I think of myself,” I questioned?

As time continued to drag on, and as the knots in my stomach continued to ball up, I finally came to a point where I needed to slap some sense into myself.

What was really going?  

Was I really a failure if I decided not to do 50 in 50 days?  Was I really going to be a failure if I decided to post less frequently?

NO

No matter what, as long as I continued interviewing women I would still making progress towards each of my goals regardless to how frequently I posted.

I realized I was my biggest critic.  I was fearful of failing myself.

Once I admitted this to myself I felt all of the knots in my stomach start to loosen.  Nobody was holding me to my goal as much as I was.

I was in control of the amount of pressure I wanted to put on myself.

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Sometimes we impose these crazy deadlines on ourselves.

Loss 15 pounds by June.  Become an associate by 25.  Buy a house by 30.

Sure, personal deadlines are helpful.  Sure, they help motivate us and steer us towards our goal.  But in the end are our own man-made deadlines.

Nobody cared as much about me changing my goal or direction as much as I did.

Nobody was going to sit there and de-friend me on Facebook or unfollow me on Twitter.

Nobody was going to start sending me hate mail, bullying me on how I had become a failure.

Again I was my biggest critic.  I was in charge of the amount of pressure I put on myself.

With that, I have a new declaration to make.  Starting this week I’ll be attempting to post one interview every week.

In doing this I hope that nasty little knot that’s been messing with my tummy will subside.  In doing this I hope that I will be able to give each woman proper time to be promoted.  And lastly in doing this I hope that I will be able to give a little life back to my goals.

This hasn’t been an easy post for me to write, but if there is anyone out there going through something similar I hope the lessons I’ve learned will help you as well :)

Kat’s Takeaways

  1. Listen to your body.  It can be a whole lot smarter than that monkey mind of yours.
  2. Don’t get lost in the first course you plot.  Take the time to make sure you are on the right track, and re-calibrate if you aren’t
  3. Remember that you are your biggest critic.  
  4. Lastly, you are the master of your own fate don’t let your goals define you  

xoxo,

Kat

 

Trusting Yourself and Taking Action

I launched this blog with the intention of helping people get more ballsy. But I’ve got a secret to confess, and that is…

I’m still scared.

That’s right, you heard me, I’m still scared.

I’m scared of putting myself further out there.

I’m scared of people loosing interest.

I’m even scared of being judged by people thinking, “Who the heck is this girl.”

Why am I telling you this?

Because I believe fear is just a mental fence that exist in our minds.

If you’re here, and you’re reading this, chances are there’s something you really want to do.

Don’t let fear to be the only thing standing in between you and your dreams.

Maybe the fence is tall, maybe its pointy at the top.  Maybe it’ll take a running start to get over, maybe it will take someone who can give you a boost.  Whatever way it is, its just a fence.

If you have a dream and fear is the only thing holding you back, find a way to hop the fucking fence.

Start trusting yourself and just go – it’s your life, live it like you give a damn.

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With that said, I’m excited to announce the next fence I’ll be hopping!  For awhile now I’ve been itching to interview bold ladies.  There are few reasons I think this would be incredibly exciting…

  1. I want to reach out to badass women that inspire me.  From challenges they face, to what success means to them and what keeps them motivated I want to soak up their lessons and help share it to others.
  2. I need to start pushing myself to talk about Bitches Work with strangers.  Yes I’m promoting ballsyness on this blog, but telling somebody my blogs name is “Bitches Work” isn’t always the easiest opener…
  3. I want to become better at conducting interviews.  I think many of us cringe when we hear ourselves talk or watch our quirky mannerism.  I want to record interviews so that I can be a better communicator.
  4. I want to learn to edit video.  I don’t know why but I’ve alway love editing videos.  It’s time I step up my game from Windows movie maker and get more pro with Final Cut Pro.

To help get me really hustling on this goal, I’m setting my goal of doing 50 in 50 days!  Yes, this may be a little ambitious, but let’s aim for the stars shall we!?

Make sure if you haven’t already to subscribe to the mailing list, or directly to the YouTube channel to join in on the action :)

xo,

Kat

Stop Waiting, Start Today

If you aren’t going to start today, and you didn’t start yesterday, when are you really going to start?

How long are you willing to wait?

What’s holding you back? Three years ago I began daydreaming of creating a place where women could go to get in-your-face inspiration. Inspiration that would say, “hey, just fucking do it.” I hated all of the flowery advice out there, and felt like there was a need for more straight from the heart, ass-kicking advice that would get you going. But fear crept in and pracrastination took over.

Week after week I just sat on the idea. Paralyzed not knowing where to start. Fearful I would look stupid. Worried that others wouldn’t like it.

Weeks turned into months, and months turned into years. On bus rides, car rides, train rides I thought about it. At my desk at work, in my bed at night. At dinner with family, at drinks with friends. The thought consumed my life. Yet nothing was happening.

At a certain point I had to make a decision….

How much longer was I willing to spend all my mental energy thinking “what if…” Whether you feel ready or not, at some point you need to decide as well… How much longer are you going to sit around, while a thoughts of “what-if” clouds your minds? Time is still ticking. What’s holding you back?

How much longer are you willing to wait?

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Eat The Frog

You know that thing you ought to be working on right now?

That annoying task that you’ve been snoozing it for the past week (okay maybe month… okay okay, maybe you’ve lost track of how long you’ve been snoozing it).

It’s constantly pestering your mind, and you wish it would just magically disappear so that it won’t continue to haunt your to-do list.

You know which tasks I’m talking about?

I myself would be lying if I say I don’t have few of these.

Some are as small and simple as send my friend letter that I’ve already written.

Some are as big and time-consuming as research better investments for my $$ portfolio.

They come in various shapes and size, but they all have one thing in common – WE PROCRASTINATE THE BAJESUS OUT OF THEM.

Plain and simple for whatever reason we don’t want to do them, even though we know we should do them.

So what do we do?

Here’s this week tip: Eat that frog.

Eat that what??

Eat the frog my friend.

“Eat that frog!” is a time management term coined by Brian Tracy. It comes from the famous Mark Twain quote, “Eat a live frog first thing in the morning and nothing worse will happen to you the rest of the day.”

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So what does this mean?

In a nut shell get that nasty stuff done first thing in the morning.

If you do the thing that you don’t want to do first thing in the morning, your day can only get better!

Sound crazy? I dare you to give it a try!

Tomorrow before you start checking your e-mail, getting lost in facebook and pinterest, or flip on the TV – just buckle down and knock ONE item off your to-do list that you’ve been procrastinating on.

Just one!

Bite the bullet and say to yourself, “I’m going to eat this frog,” and just plow, plow plow, until you get it done.

In the comments below write one frog you’ve been procrastinating on that you right here, right now will promise to do tomorrow. After you’ve checked it off reply to yourself with a solid “DONE!!!”

xo,

Kat

Does Success Lead to Happiness?

I am in charge of how I feel and today I am choosing happiness

I am in charge of how I feel and today I am choosing happiness

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “after ______, then I’ll be happy”

“After I get a raise, than I’ll be happy.”

“After I finish this project, than I’ll be happy.”

“After I lose 10 pounds, than I’ll be happy”

For many of us the thought of future success is what motivates us.

For example, “Work is really shitty, and I hate my boss, and I only being paid pennies…. after I get a raise though, then I’ll be happy. I’ll finally be able to pay all my bills without worrying.”

While sure, in some twisted way, it motivate us now, is it possible that we could actually be setting our for a less successful life?

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