I launched Bitches Work with the intention of helping people get more ballsy. But I’ve got a secret to confess, and that is…
I’m still scared.
That’s right, you heard me, I’m still scared.
I’m scared of putting myself further out there.
I’m scared of people loosing interest.
I’m even scared of being judged by people thinking, “Who the heck is this girl.”
Why am I telling you this?
Because I believe fear is just a mental fence that exist in our minds.
If you’re here, and you’re reading this, chances are there’s something you really want to do.
Don’t let fear to be the only thing standing in between you and your dreams.
Maybe the fence is tall, maybe its pointy at the top. Maybe it’ll take a running start to get over, maybe it will take someone who can give you a boost. Whatever way it is, its just a fence.
If you have a dream and fear is the only thing holding you back, find a way to hop the fucking fence.
Start trusting yourself and just go – it’s your life, live it like you give a damn.
With that said, I’m excited to announce the next fence I’ll be hopping! For awhile now I’ve been itching to interview bold ladies. There are few reasons I think this would be incredibly exciting…
- I want to reach out to badass women that inspire me. From challenges they face, to what success means to them and what keeps them motivated I want to soak up their lessons and help share it to others.
- I need to start pushing myself to talk about Bitches Work with strangers. Yes I’m promoting ballsyness on this blog, but telling somebody my blogs name is “Bitches Work” isn’t always the easiest opener…
- I want to become better at conducting interviews. I think many of us cringe when we hear ourselves talk or watch our quirky mannerism. I want to record interviews so that I can be a better communicator.
- I want to learn to edit video. I don’t know why but I’ve alway love editing videos. It’s time I step up my game from Windows movie maker and get more pro with Final Cut Pro.
To help get me really hustling on this goal, I’m setting my goal of doing 50 in 50 days! Yes, this may be a little ambitious, but let’s aim for the stars shall we!?
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Sure I can relate. My blog is about 4 months old now and there is still fear. A lot of it in fact. I fear many things.
I fear if people think I’m a loser and that I’m just being delusional for daring to pitch big sites like the Huff Post. And I fear people might think my writing sucks and doesn’t deserve to be there if the article even gets published. I fear every day. But I don’t let fear consume it. I use it as leverage to improve the quality of my life.
Love this - using fear “as leverage to improve the quality of life.” Well said!
Right on Jeremy! Have you ever heard this quote, “you’ll worry less about what people think about you when you realize how seldom they do.” Haha initially its kind of depressing quote, but I find it somewhat liberating!
Kat, what an inspiring post and what an awesome idea! I can’t wait to see whom you choose to interview for your challenge! I will definitely be following up. As for fear, I can attest that it controls me all too effectively and I’m TIRED OF IT. When it comes right down to it, we judge ourselves far more viciously and well than anyone else ever could … if we can get over our own fears/judgments, the rest might just fall by the wayside.
Thanks Sarah! Yes seriously, I’m tired of it too! I just put this on Jeremy’s comment but I came across this random quote and it has really hit home with me. “You’ll worry less about what people think about you when you realize how seldom they do.” I think its somewhat depressing at first, but after really internalizing it, it’s been so liberating. We spend way too much of our energy thinking what others will think of us, when in reality people aren’t spending their days judging and thinking about us.
Adore this post, Kat. We are on this blogging, traveling, facing the SHIT out of fear path together it seems. Keep at it. I get discouraged about my blog at times…I try to remember that it’s not about a certain number of eyes reading or ‘likes’ given, but that if I can help just ONE person live a little bit more bravely…it’s worth it.
And you are most certainly doing that! XO
“if I can help just ONE person live a little bit more bravely…it’s worth it.”
==> A lot of people say this kind of thing, but I have to disagree. If that number isn’t increasing, something’s wrong.
“We are on this blogging, traveling, facing the SHIT out of fear path together it seems.” “I get discouraged about my blog at times…”
==> It’s nice to hear fellow bloggers declare this, so that we know we aren’t alone.
TOTALLY! I always crawl into these spirals of doubt of “wtf am I doing.” Need to keep reminding myself that it doesn’t matter the number of likes or shares and continue to go back to why I started this all in the first place. Thanks for your support as always Anne, WE NEED TO CATCH UP!!
Woo hoo! I’m not an idiot after all…thanks for explaining how to get to the comments, HAHA. Your thoughts are dead on in this post. Fear squelches dreams, and it’s just plain awful! We need to kick fear in it’s butt and keep pushing forward. Have you ever read about the filmmaker Tyler Perry’s life? He went through CRAZY challenges, and look at how successful he is now. I believe you we can take fear/challenges and turn them into something useful to help us succeed!
Thanks Liz! I haven’t read about it, but I’ll google the ish out of it right after this :p
Bitcheswork.com lmfao hahaha ahh that’s funny :p
But yea, fear is what makes us feel alive in the first place, lol. I think of it as a vital tool to have if you want to do something different in your life.
Hey Kat!
Here is a link to a blog post that COMPLETELY changed my life about a year ago. The Fear Less part of the blog really got to me, and since then I got it tattooed on my wrist as a reminder, and it really has pushed me out of my comfort zone. My experiences since then have been AMAZING, I have never been happier, and it’s something I live by.
http://www.theangrytherapist.com/fear-less/
p.s.
good luck on your 50 interviews!
love your blog
This is so great Fiona! Was the change immediate? How do you think you started living differently?
-Kat
I think it took about a week (after reading the post multiple times, making a list of things I wanted to “fear less” of, and a list of HOW I would accomplish that) for me to act on it. One of the biggest things I feared (and so does everyone else) was rejection. Once I realized rejection won’t send my life down a spiraling black hole, I feared it less, and since then it’s become a motivating factor.
PREACH!! Yes I think fear of rejection is one of the most annoying hardwired bits about us, wouldn’t you say? I’ve actually thinking a lot about this. We are so hardwired to stay safe for “survival” but the life we live now is SO different from that of our ancestors. We don’t need to stay safe to survive, but we DO need to be able realize this which isn’t always so easy.
Love this post! So inspiring!
Thanks Randy for your support as always 😉
1. I just stumbled across you and, let me put this way, LOVE you already. You’re my kinda gal.
2. I always say there’s a difference between BEING fearless and ACTING fearlessly. There’ll always be fear in our lives, to some extent. The key? ACTING fearless. Going for it anyway. Starting before you’re ready. Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, uncomfortable or no. THAT’S where the good stuff is — on the other side of that.
Anyway, “hi” + you rock, and I look forward to watching what you do next!
1. I’m so glad you stumbled in here. I LOVE your site and message, especially about the rebel girl being the girl that changes the world.
2. #truth ACTING fearlessly and just pushing through the uncomfortable zone! I don’t think I’ll ever say I’m fearless, but the key for me is channeling that “badass” mindset where I don’t give a f*ck and just go for it
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